Friday, August 20, 2010

I want to move in with my dad?

Hi I'm 20 years old and when i was 9, my parents divorced. It was probably one of the worst experiences in my life. Basically lots of drama, more than normal i think. My mom one time got a kitchen knife and put it to her stomach and almost commited suicide in front of us, and then fainted. She says my dad used to hit her but i must have blocked those memories out because i don't remember them or ever seeing bruises on her. After that, my sisters and i moved in with our grandma for the next year. Took my dad about that whole time to come see us, he said my mom didn't want him to see us and i believe him. She always said bad things about him in front of us and used to say ';Do you want to move in with your dad!?'; to scare us, and it was scary. She used to make us feel so guilty for wanting to see him.

After the first visit, he didn't come see us for a long time. When he did, we found out he was married to someone else and she had children already, i always thought and in the back of my mind sometimes still do that he loved them more than he loved us. Well about 3 years ago, he started coming to see us more and more, really often and I've gotten to know him better and he's been nice to us. His wife was nice to us too, but sometimes i feel the only reason he was seeing us is because her children are adults now and moved out.

Anyways, those feelings of deep guilt come back whenever i think about wanting to move in with my dad. I know they're because my mom has sort of brainwashed us, so I try to get over them. How do i let my dad know that i want to move in with him, and how do i know if he even wants me to move in with him. I'm tired of living with my mom, i just dropped out of college and I feel like **** already and she's adding to it. I'm going to be living on my own anyways in about a year and i just want to live with my dad for a little bit of my life.I want to move in with my dad?
Your mom sounds bad, but your dad sounds most likely worse. I'd say get a job ASAP and get your own apartment like yesterday!I want to move in with my dad?
dude my mom threatened me the same way, it made me hate my dad but then i realized hes a better option than living with my corrupt middle class mom and step dad

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You are an adult now.Either get a job and your own place or go back to school or join the

military.You don't need to live with your Dad,that ship has sailed..You can visit

your Father all the time but its time to grow up.The past is past.You need to get

past all the divorce crap.Your Mom was dead wrong to threaten you kids with

living with your father.But there is some reason she turned that sour on him so

don't just dismiss the fact that he may have beat her and you never knew about

it.Most men do not hit a woman where it shows. be careful.
At 20 you need to be looking ahead and planning your own life instead of trying to re-live your teens by moving in with your dad and his new family. Chances are, adding you to the mix will be an inconvenience to you and a burden to them.

Continue to make plans to hang out with your dad from time to time, perhaps bring something along to contribute to holiday meals.
I think getting to know your dad better would be great. i would bring the question up like ';hey dad, what do you think of me moving in with you for a while? i really like when you come over, but i want to spend some more time with you before i go back to collage(or get a full time job, whichever you choose).'; If he says no, then just except it. if he says yes, then pack you suitcase. i had to tell my mom i was going vegetarian, which was really hard. i know its small compared to this, but i have confidence that you can do it. ;) good luck! i hope this helped!

I cant get her out of my head! what have you done to get ';her'; out of your head?

theres this girl, lets call her jane, and i have liked jane on and off (but mostly on) for about 3 years. she started to like me last year in august, and we finally went out. she is basicaly the parfect girl, nice, funny, smart, easy to talk to, and last but not least, hotter than any other girl i know. of course, jane also moved in august, to a city about 3 hours from where i live. we kinda kept our thing goin, the best we could, hung out, watched movies, etc. all the normal couple stuff. but it slowly deterierated just because it was too hard to make it work with the 3 hour travel time.

i go t a small school, so my girl selection is limited, and i have no free time with sports to meet girls from other schools. so whenever i start to have any kind of relationship with another girl, memories of jane and how perfect she is pop into my brain, and it f**ks up my new relationship.

who else has had something like this happen, and what did you do to get ';her'; out of your mindI cant get her out of my head! what have you done to get ';her'; out of your head?
why dont u go out with her again. and u guys can go hang out in a town in between ur towns? so that way she only has to drive a hour and a half and u only have to drive an hour and a half. and then when ur old enough move somewhere together.

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There's always one. This has got to be one of the funniest things in a long time. I think this guy should have been promoted, not fired This is a true story from the Word Perfect Helpline, which was transcribed from a recording monitoring the customer care department. Needless to say the Help Desk employee was fired; however, he/she is currently suing the Word Perfect organization for ';Termination without Cause';.

Actual dialogue of a former WordPerfect Customer Support employee. (Now I know why they record these conversations! ) :

Operator: ';Ridge Hall, computer assistance; may I help you?';

Caller: ';Yes, well, I'm having trouble with WordPerfect. ';

Operator: ';What sort of trouble??';

Caller: ';Well, I was just typing along, and all of a sudden the words went away.';

Operator: ';Went away?';

Caller: ';They disappeared. ';

Operator: ';Hmm So what does your screen look like now?';

Caller: ';Nothing.';

Operator: ';Nothing??';

Caller: ';It's blank; it won't accept anything when I type.';

Operator: ';Are you still in WordPerfect, or did you get out??';

Caller: ';How do I tell?';

Operator: ';Can you see the C: prompt on the screen??';

Caller: ';What's a sea-prompt?';

Operator: ';Never mind, can you move your cursor around the screen?';

Caller: ';There isn't any cursor: I told you, it won't accept anything I type.';

Operator: ';Does your monitor have a power indicator??';

Caller: ';What's a monitor?';

Operator: ';It's the thing with the screen on it that looks like a TV. Does it have a little light that tells you when it's on??';

Caller: ';I don't know.';

Operator: ';Well, then look on the back of the monitor and find where the power cord goes into it. Can you see that??';

Caller: ';Yes, I think so.';

Operator: ';Great. Follow the cord to the plug, and tell me if it's plugged into the wall.

Caller: ';Yes, it is.';

Operator: ';When you were behind the monitor, did you notice that there were two cables plugged into the back of it, not just one??';

Caller: ';No.';

Operator: ';Well, there are. I need you to look back there again and find the other cable.';

Caller: ';Okay, here it is.';

Operator: ';Follow it for me, and tell me if it's plugged securely into the back of your computer.';

Caller: ';I can't reach.';

Operator: ';Uh huh. Well, can you see if it is??';

Caller: ';No.';

Operator: ';Even if you maybe put your knee on something and lean way over??';

Caller: ';Oh, it's not because I don't have the right angle - it's because it's dark.';

Operator: ';Dark??';

Caller: ';Yes - the office light is off, and the only light I have is coming in from the window.

Operator: ';Well, turn on the office light then.';

Caller: ';I can't.';

Operator: ';No? Why not??';

Caller: ';Because there's a power failure.';

Operator: ';A power....... .. A power failure? Aha, Okay, we've got it licked now.

Do you still have the boxes and manuals and packing stuff your computer came in??';

Caller: ';Well, yes, I keep them in the closet.';

Operator: ';Good. Go get them, and unplug your system and pack it up just like it was when you got it. Then take it back to the store you bought it from.';

Caller: ';Really? Is it that bad?';

Operator: ';Yes, I'm afraid it is.';

Caller: ';Well, all right then, I suppose. What do I tell them??';

Operator: ';Tell them you're too f*%king stupid to own a computer!!!! !';Is this as good as the last?
I love it girl good job because you really did hit the spot with one girl i just can not stop laughing at your joke because i love it somuch girl and high 5 because you really did nail this one way to go I'm so pround of you because i really do love this joke this is the most funniest thing that i had ever in my life and good looking out girl this really is a good one and thanks for making me laugh lol 10/10 because i should did need it.;鈥?/a>

Yes, this link is about ';Yasmeen';.(or whatever her name is today)

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hahahaha! omg thats really good!
Hahaha i found that quite funny
Firing was too good for him or her!

However, the verbal exchange was hilarious! 10/10! (at least until the last line, which was just mean...)

Thanks for the laugh! Yes, this is just as good as--or better--than the last one! A star for you!
i dunno if its as good as the last, but its funny! lol
Haha, very funny. :D
ive gone bozz eyed reading that but it was s1te sh1t sh1t bet your on west side of the pond that was terrible
that was funny fair play
LOL hahahaha this is one the funniest ones i hv ever heard...i cant think to imagine it actually happened! o man!

Please do my animal cruelty analysis. There is no right answer. So DON'T vote. I wanna see your views.?

1. In lots of cultures many people are experiencing past lives of other individuals or animals. What animal do you associate yourself with and why?

2. There are many different types of animal cruelty reported. What type are you mostly familiar with.

3. Which types of cruelty are you disgusted by and why?

4. Do you agree with the statement of animals having feelings, emotions, and are able to think? Why or Why not.

5. Do you have a pet? If yes what kind and how did you get it.

6. Do you consider stray animals neglected? Why or why not.

7. Are animals supposed to be used for food? Why or why not.

8. Are animals made for fur? Why or why not.

9. Do you think people who commit cruelty deserve punishment and if yes what kind?

10. Do you think urban/slum areas highlight/encourage animal cruelty and/or dog fighting?

11. Why or why not.

12. Do you think it鈥檚 a cultural/ethnic/lifestyle group thing to be involved with animal/dog fighting? Why or why not.

13. If yes to the above question how do you feel about bull fighting and slaying the bull after the fight is done and the other Hispanic sport of cockfighting?

14. What animal rights group do you associate yourself with? Why

15. Do u think there should be more effort to helping animals in need?

16. In Japan they go whaling and they hunt for dolphins. In other places they hunt endangered animals for game or profit. How do you feel about that?

17. Do you think people should be involved with passing laws against animal cruelty? Why or why not.

18. If you said no to question 17 above, do you think it鈥檚 all right to have the punishment be a misdemeanor and not a felony even thought it鈥檚 an act of violence?

19. If you said yes to question 17 above, do you think laws should be heavier and moved up to be a felony than a misdemeanor? And also have stricter limitation on adopting animals?

20. Do you agree with animals testing? Why or why not.

21. If no to question 21, do you think that testing should only be giving to humans?

22. Have you ever heard of Puppy Mills? How and what do you feel about them?

23. If you鈥檙e against animal cruelty how do you feel about artist and their artwork representation of stopping cruelty?

24. How do you feel about Celebrities spreading the word and going against fur wearing and animal violence?

25. If your not against animal cruelty and/or don鈥檛 care for it would change your mind after seeing the facts, pictures, and spending time with a neglected and/or abused animal?

26. Have you ever seen animal cruelty with your own eyes? If yes what did you see and did you do anything to stop it.

27. If no to question 26, what would you have done if you witnessed it?Please do my animal cruelty analysis. There is no right answer. So DON'T vote. I wanna see your views.?
1.A finch. because they are free. Small, yet great at social situations including parenting.

2. neglect, physical abuse

3. All kinds because animals are innocent creatures and they do not deserve the kind of treatment that some abusers give them.

4. Absolutely, they become attached to their owners, they love, they depend on us.

5. I have 2 dogs, one which I bought and the other I adopted. I have a beta fish, 2 mice and a leopard gecko that I bought,

6. Depends on how they became stray. If some one left them after caring for them for the main part of their life then yes. But if they were born that way then no.

7. I feel they are because it is like part of the cycle of nature. Other animals eat other animals, and we as humans are considered top of the food chain, so technically we can eat any animals. Of course we are intelligent enough to choose what we eat and I fully understand that some people are not comfortable with eating animals.

8. Yes. Not sure what kind but something that will likely keep them from doing it again in the future. Maybe even some counseling.

This is really long so I am going to quite for now and try to continue again later. Hope these are useful for your study.Please do my animal cruelty analysis. There is no right answer. So DON'T vote. I wanna see your views.?
Sorry took me so long. This is the only way I could figure to add more. Seems I skiped 8 so the answer for 8 is actually for 9.

8. Yes I think the animals were made for fur back when that was the only way the human race could warm themselves. But these days it just seems unneccisary and cruel

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10%26amp;11 not really it may be more common in these area's because of the people that live there.

12. yes because some cultures do not consider animal cruelty a problem.

13. they are a cultrual tradition and in that respect, i respect them among that culture, but would never take part in them myself

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I have absolutely nothing positive in my mind right now...?

Im a 15 year old guy...and alot has been going on lately for me and its been confuseing...there was this girl i really care about more than your average crush...than theres school and family and so many other things going through my mind...things were starting to become brighter withh all of those things listed above...than out of no where it happened again...see i have a really negative outlook on life...

i dont see much of the positive things unless i have a positive song on and than i start to see peoples smiles...but i cant have music on all the basically im becomeing more and more negative as the days go by...

and this has all happend before in the end i started babbling on about the darkness comeing to take me over and i was locked in my houe aside from occasional trips to the video store for the entire noticeing it happen again im avoiding my friends...i have everyone except the girl i really like and her brother blocked on msn...

and the part that gets me paranoid is the memories begin to torture me ill be sitting here and ill remember my old bestfriends who moved and i start to get really upset than more and more flash in my mind till i just want to keel over...i dont have much to be positive about in life right now..

im not popular so not many friends, i cant get a girlfriend no matter how hard i try because im to messed up in the head to interest any girl... my dads ashamed of me and constantly trys to control what i enjoy and what i do with my life...sure he's aloud to care about school...but when im worried about him seeing me looking at a tradeing card or something because he'll think im being childish its a tad far...

everyone and i mean everyone disrespects me cant even sit on the bus without someone behind me i dont even know doing something to embaress me...and family does it to only they yell or dont exactly show themselves very much in my life...basically im alone while i sit here and pick at myself till i have nothing left...i hate myself...i really do...i have absoloutly no qualities i like about myself...if i was another person right now id probally shoot me...i hounestly cant tell you a trait i like about myself...

and because of that if i make a mistake i not only get picked at by everyone around me but i pick at myself over and over till it gets to the point where i start becomeing strange ill act out these twitches and such for attention even though i dont want to i just want to be normal...i start to scream and attack people laugh over stupid things...swallow quarters and fall over drueling...i wont stop till either someone makes me snap out of it by makeing me think about my actions...considering the fact my mind shuts down or i hit my head of something no matter how much i dont want to spazz ojut like that once i pick at myself till a certain point it just happens and i forget who i am...this all happens because i tear myself to peices on a daily bases and i have absoloutly nothing in my mind to find positive...

all i am is this shroud of negativity no wonder im not well liked i just kill everyones mood or make them angry...and than i just get mad at myself for being liek that in the first place...its a constant cycle and it wont go away...

my head hurts right now because its comeing...that metaphorical darkness is comeing and im going to drift away again...i dont know what to do...please give me something to work with heere im gettin paranoidI have absolutely nothing positive in my mind right now...?
Wow, that must be a tough position to be in. I like the porn idea (kinda funny) but I think there are some simple things you can do that would turn yourself around.

First it sounds like you just need someone to anchor you into reality. Someone to talk to on a regular basis or to just vent to without judgement and without criticism. It seems like you have some negative things going on in your life that may lead to the negative thoughts. Parents at home, your own self-image, school, family, etc can get overwhelming after a while. Do you keep a journal or diary? I know it may sound silly but a lot of times people bottle up emotions until they explode or overflow causing ';the darkness'; as you call it. Writing things down may be a simple way to let some of those overwhelming emotions out so you don't constantly think about them.

Next you can make a list of good things in your life. This one is kinda tough because with your mindset right now you may not see many good things, but trust me, they are there. Start with simple things like eating your favorite cereal or being able to get on the internet (and look up that porn). You still talk with this smokin' hot girl that you like so that is good, too. Keep trying to add to that list and review it every day.

Finally my quick advice to you is to find ways to release endorphins in your brain. Endorphins are the brain's ';Happy Chemical'; and can really change your mood over time. I'll attach a link of 10 good ways to get out those endorphins WITHOUT USING DRUGS! Don't do drugs. Instead smile. Even if you don't feel like smiling, there is a world of study out there that suggests that if you smile for about five minutes straight you will trick your brain into being happy. Kind of like muscle memory.

You can also do good things for others. It is called the Do-good feel-good phenomenon. Basically the more you make people feel good, the better you will feel.

Anyway, I hope that helps. It is good that you are trying to get a hold on this dark feeling and negative mind set that you have. That is a step in the right direction.I have absolutely nothing positive in my mind right now...?
The yardstick adopted by you for such self-analysis may be old. That may be the reason.
watch some porn or let laid orr....both!
First of all don't hate yourself. We all go through rough patches and it seems like you think you're going through more than a rough patch. Try looking at the bright side of things. At least you're alive and well. Why don't you start there and build from that. It's an awful thing to say you hate yourself. It's basically saying you hate God for making you this way. Look at your situation compared to those in Haiti right now who've lost their families or their whole ways of life. You're real lucky to be a healthy individual right now - embrace it. Thank God for it. And just work through the pain you're going through now, but you'll be so much happier when you're out of school.
To the contrary, you apparently can write about your feelings and doing it very well. All what you mentioned is sometimes tough to deal especially when you can not share with some one who is close to you or can understand. I grew up in a very rural area no friends or neighbors. You are lucky at least you have some good MUSIC to change your mood. I ignore people I don't care about and have my own things I think is important to me. Those are the things that make you who you are. Don't let others try to get you down. So have you ever thought of writing novels? Have you ever read any Dean Koontz books? He has a neat way of expressing himself through other character's. check it out (Odd Thomas is one of my favorite, He even has a highly Intelligent dog In a few of his books) Many writers have started just like you. Try to write a short story about a day of your life, you could change the story so you end up as a hero, a lover or a secret agent. what ever you want, you can find it in your story. Then read it over and correct the spelling, change a few words and presto you have a short story. I hope it all works out, If not, don't be afraid to ask for professional help.
I feel the exact same way about everything you just said right now. There is nobody in the world right now who respects me and I get talked down to all the time by the people I call my friends. I'm the disappointment of my family because my grades just don't add up to my parent's insanely high standards and I've rejected my religion.

First off, don't hate yourself, you're awesome just the way you are and don't let anybody tell you otherwise.

Second, don't vie for attention in that way, you're only hurting yourself.

Third, the day will come when you can leave all this behind you and move and have a new start.

If you wanna talk, feel free to email me.

What is it that you wish to achieve in the onset of the rest of the coming year????

Ok, so it is June, meaning something to some, little to many, and a lotto a few, with six months until the tidings of the holidays is there any one or more things that you want to see accomplished and let's keep our children and families out of this one, unless you must...this is a PERSONAL BEST what is on your mind???? Prior to the year 2008 what is it that you want to see happen for you, case in point, I needed to move, and I have...there are many more things...inclusive certain books, learning a new language, travelling to another country and the list goes on....I am presently looking for a retreat of somekind that has NO restrictions on it.....No I will NOT be bird watching on a junket of bingo players, but I am sure that you catch my drift here,....hence what is it for you?????


I am on a mission to complete many thngs and they are all in motion....glad to say about you?????What is it that you wish to achieve in the onset of the rest of the coming year????
This June is the last of my twenties, so a lot of reflection for me this month. What have my first thirty years been, and what can my next thirty be? Seems that up until now, I have not had my own dreams, desires, or even simple preferences. My identity has been lost in parents,friends, boyfriends, husband, children, and career. My mission for the next six months is to take time for myself and figure out how I can enjoy these next thirty years.What is it that you wish to achieve in the onset of the rest of the coming year????
ya ok i want to finish school
I want to cure myself of procrastination and stop wasting my time listening to B.S.
yes, a lot of things with travel being number 1
I see we have our thinking caps on tightly today, Ms. E!

What I would like to achieve is to finish my second novel by years end.
to do all i can to get right with the LORD, so that i can get rea

dy to leave here in the very near future.
The way I look at life I believe make it good and make it simple. I tend to exercise like crazy but I love a few cold beers after. This year I would like to simply give up most of the beer. All of the others things I want to do will be easier.
1) financial outlook ..brightens

2) we FINALLY get to purchase a home

Good Question ..I pray that Father God helps you achieve what you hope for in the next 6 months
be happy if I make to x-mas*!*
First and foremost, I am determined to walk by myself again. I'm working on it a little at a time. It's very difficult, but I won't give up until I finally lose this walker, and take back some semblance of my normal life. I hope to be walking in the woods by autumn!

I have a few lesser goals, mostly having to do with my lack of computer acumen. I have people who are doing their best to help me with that.

I appreciate them all, and I do feel blessed!
Well, I'll be going on a trip later this month, and I hope this goes okay. I'd like to do a bit more travelling this year, get my GED, and start going to college this fall without many problems. Other than that, I hope I can just be happy.
I just want to catch up on the bills. Finding a good job would help!
I need to finish all my unpacking and really get settled, finish getting the other house ready to sell and sell it. Come out of retirement and get a job (just long enough to help build the nest egg) Paint the inside of this house, lose 15 pounds, and finally get a little rest.

Sidebar: For a nice retreat try a spirit walk with the Native Americans in New Mexico. Does wonders for the soul and peace of mind.
buy a home on the oregon coast

continue my eduation

lose another 15 pounds-down another 2 pounds since last week!

save and plan my trip to costa rica

build my clientele even more

do good in my a levels (althought thats virtually impossible methinks!) and get into my first choice uni.

if i dont, literaly my world's gonna end :-(
To discover the whereabouts of a couple of past business acquaintances to exact my revenge upon them with extreme prejudice.

Have you ever had your significant other to tell you about yourself in a bad way?

Meaning have they just told you about yourself to the point where it hurt you to the core and afterwards you felt emotionless? All you could do is cry but no other feelings? Whether it was true or not what they said to you about yourself it still hurt you. They say nothing good about you but can come up with a millions things to say bad about you to your face. In their mind, that's how they feel about you but you yourself know that is just not true. You sit and listen and try to get a word in in your defense but to no avail. Two days later, you are still feeling indifferent towards the person. What do you do? Do you move on as if nothing was said or do you confront the person on the things he said that hurt? My thing is, I don't want to rehash things that he said because I just want to deal with it in my own way by just not having anything to say to him right now. It's like I don't even want to be with him right now. I just want to walk out and stay gone for awhile. This is how much the conversation has me thinking. Is it good for your mate to just always come straight out and tell you about yourself cause it can put some distance into the relationship. Who has gone thru this and how did u handle it?Have you ever had your significant other to tell you about yourself in a bad way?
unfortunately once something hurtful is said its hard to move past it. some people abuse u when they are angry, but once its said u can't take it back even if u show remorse. because it causes the other person to begin to feel bad about themselves. once u begin to feel badly about yourself and who u are, its pretty much over with that person because u realize he meant it and believed it.Have you ever had your significant other to tell you about yourself in a bad way?
There is a name for these kinds of people.


You are in an abusive relationship.

Abuse always escalates. Emotional and Verbal abuse is how it STARTS.

This is conditioning you to allow him to treat you with disrepect.

Research key words.

Make an educated decision based on facts, not what you feel for him.
I went through too many years of this kind and along with other kinds of abuse. It took me too long to finally walk away! It was years ago, and it shattered my self esteem. I still find myself thinking why I even let their hurtful words touch my heart and mind.

Don't put up with it. Your better than that
If your significant other has only bad things to say about you,why are you with him?I would rather be with someone who builds me up instead of drag me down.Make your choice,stay and put up with it or go.Is he your judge,jury and hangman?You give him too much power honey.Seriously.
I would examine carefully the things he said for truth. If they are untrue I would question why he said such hurtful things to me, and if true, why he said them in such a hurtful way. Eventually, I would address it with him.
You should be more specific. You are basically anonymous on here, so details will be the only way to get some advice. I'd like to help, but you are making it difficult. Details please
Geez, drama drama drama!!!
Choose Christ Jesus as your savior.

Without him there is no life
I'm sorry that you are feeling so hurt right now. It's called emotional abuse, and it's wrong. No one should ever put someone down or say spiteful things to hurt someones feelings, especially the one who says they love you.

That being said, I think it's happened to almost everyone. People can be rude and ';crazy-like'; when they are upset..still it's no excuse.

You need to talk to him, explain how hurt you are, and that you just need some time to cope. If he truly sorry and sure that it will never happen again I would forgive and forget. If its's done on a day to day basis I would leave him. You deserve to be happy in life. Spouses are meant to compliment each other not drag each or tear each other down.

I would even consider couples counseling.
Every relationship that I've had has been the same way. Now I'm in a different kind of relationship were my bf always tells me before he says something about me that he is not jumping on me %26amp; I've

always been afraid to say anything for fear of them leaving me. Now it's a new kind of relationship %26amp; I love it. We have had a stormy start but, as long as we can talk things out we will be ok. Love really doesn't hurt. I'm able to say what I think %26amp; not be afraid that he will walk out on me. To thy own self be true. You are a beautiful person always remember that %26amp; it's his loss not yours.
I think that it is okay to take a few days to compose yourself and sort out your feelings towards the situation/person - but in the end you do need to say something to him. If you don't then it's just going to end up eating you up inside. It's best to say something sooner rather than later - if you let it go too long then he isn't going to know why you are so upset with him.

It is best to be honest in a relationship - and sometimes telling people the truth hurts, but there are nice ways to tell people the truth and then there are hurtful ways. Your partner has obviously decided to tell you things in a very hurtful manner and that's not a good thing.

You need to talk with him, not only about what he said but how he said it. You need to communicate that you like to hear the truth from him, but you wish that he could tell you in a different manner because you feel like you are being attacked.

In the end it is going to hurt you even more if you don't say something. No one should make you feel like this - especially not your significant other. Sometimes people don't realize how harsh they are being and need to be reminded. Take the time to really think about what is bothering you and what you want to say to him - then talk with him. You need to communicate how you are feeling, otherwise you are going to stay angry and you need to try to work things out so you can let it go.