Anger is a State of Mind?

Well, i think im one of the few people who rarely get angry. i mean, i do get angry but i RARELY overreact, or react at all, no matter how big the situation. All i had to do was change my state of mind.





1: change your thinking. when you get angry, you think of all the worst possible scenario's, all the bad things that could happen, and how bad the situation will affect you or disappoint you. the first step you have to do to change that is simple. think this to yourself:





ok, right now im angry because of ( yada yada ydada). I know getting angry makes me feel horrible, and feeling horrible sucks. i don't want to feel this way. I cant change what happened, so theres really no use in being angry, i should find the best possible way to fix the situation. If i cant change the situation, i have to learn to accept it, because i cant change it. I know this is only temporary, i may be angry now, and maybe tomorrow or even longer, but i cant stay angry forever. its only a matter of time before i feel happy again.





2: practice step 1. alot. it will take some practice but its worth it. i mean, who really wants to feel angry? you'll adapt better to situations and feel better overall. If you don't think this will work for you, still, give it a try.





3: if step 1 doesn't work, then try this along with step 1. ignore the cause of your anger( sibling, loss of valuables, not getting something).completely tune it out. THIS WILL TAKE PRACTICE. do whatever you have to do to go on with your life WITHOUT RESORTING TO VIOLENT METHODS. just move, or act like everything they do or say is invisible to you. channel your anger, take a walk outside, if you cant walk, then take up a hobby, write down your anger, draw, look at videos, read, whatever it takes to take your mind off of it. soon, you'll be able to completely tune out the unfavorables in your life. if you cant seem to find a constructive way to channel your anger, than try some of everything mentioned, you might not be good at it at first, but you never know what you might like.Anger is a State of Mind?
You are a practitioner in the noble art of 'Deflection'.





Avoiding anger is fine, for a time ....given certain circumstances of the moment where demonstrating anger etc might be either counterproductive or dangerous. However, beyond that, it is potentially Dangerous for you: Some schools of thought that 'unexpressed anger can create cancers (or allow the chances of them to become greater)'. Further to that though, this 'avoidance' of the emotion is to avoid the very self and a valid expression of the Self that is in essence, 'You'.





There is a great deal that could be written about the subject hear n now, but I'm not going to attempt to try and 'convince you that I'm right'. I don't need to.





Tricks, methods, strategies and ways n means for 'AVOIDING' dealing with anger are all well and good, but they do not deal with the cause of your feeling and this does not give you Authority, nor Power nor Validation of or over your Self.





You can find constructive ways of dealing with anger ~ and I'm assuming you's want to do this because it is opposite to the 'Destructive' ways of dealing with it that you want to avoid.





There are ''Other'' ways of dealing with these feelings without being avoiding or destructive, and that is by approching the matter face to face and being challenging while NOT being threatening.





Again, it is a very lengthy topic on which to write, but you fail to say the reasons / causes or offer examples of Why the anfger arises in the first place! And, in themselves, these are just as important.





Many people approach their anger like that of children .....and invarialy simply go all out to seek revenge whilst carrying a sign that reads 'JUSTIFICATION' over their heads .....and there are a lot of individuals who do just that while carrying AK47's too.





Why learn when it is simpler 'just to do'.


Sash.Anger is a State of Mind?
Lets not forget a few hormones...





A lack of anger can be a sign of just as many problems as one who has an over abundance or lack of control of it.
WTF is your question man?