I have been wanting to move away from the mid-west since we got her about 9 years ago?

but the more I want, it seems like the less likely. My husband works and I stay home with kids, so we have been waiting for a job transfer for the past 5 years to the west coast which is where we both want to go, but every time it seems likely, some things comes up with his job and we have to wait for the next job opening, the reason have been legit, it just seems like the timing has not been agreeable with ours.





Anyhow, how would you handle in your mind such situation, please put yourself in my shoes and give me some good advice.





P.S. we have no family close by and most of our family is in the west coast, so that is a big factor in wanting to go back.





THANKS IN ADVANCE for your sincere and honest advice.





I have been wanting to move away from the mid-west since we got her about 9 years ago?
The answer? FIND a way. If you both want it, then figure out what's standing between you and what you want. Your husband may need to find work in a company that does work similar to what he's doing now, and you might need to work for a time, but if it's something you both want enough, it can be done.





Just be sure that you're moving for the right reasons, and that you don't think living in a different place is going to magically cure other problems in your life. If your marriage is on even the least bit of shaky ground, get THAT part of your life straightened out before you try to make a major change in other parts of your life.





Also be aware that it's MUCH more expensive to live on the west coast than in the midwest (I've lived both places, having formerly lived in Colorado, and being now a resident of western Washington state); if money problems are an issue in your lives, it may be better to wait a while. Also, the west coast is a much more liberal place, politically speaking, than the midwest; your lives can be very different as a result, and ';different'; is not always the same thing as ';better.';





All that said, if you want it badly enough, and you're both willing to work harder and accept the fact that all change is rough on individuals and relationships, you CAN find a way. Good luck!I have been wanting to move away from the mid-west since we got her about 9 years ago?
Who can say for sure? It may very well be that God has you there for a reason. (If I had MY way, I would not be in New York! )


Acceptance, and knowing God's timing is not always according to OUR clock can lead to contentment in such situations.


At least, that's MY experience.





When the time is right, if it does come, don't be surprised if it hurts to leave.
You have to bloom where you are planted. In time, God willing, you may go where you like, but for today, your are in a place where you are safe. Your children are healthy ( yes? ) You are warm. You do not go to ben hungry. It is not as bad as it may seem beloved. Be patient.
when you apply your mind on heavenly things your situation dissolves





Jesus said cast all your care upon me because I care for you, what does Jesus say to do have you asked him?
Things happen for a reason. You will get where you want to go in Gods timing.
Things happen for a reason. And you may not like them, but you have to accept them.


Best advice... do what you can to make that area home, like you are never going to move. What are the great things about the area? Get involved in the local community. Get the kids in sports and other activities. Meet up with other moms and get some friends. You can't sit there waiting for if and when. It doesn't do any good!





My entire life has been spent away from family, moving from place to place. By the time my dad retired from the military (I was 10) I had lived in 5 different places, and then we retired to an area we had never been before. Lived there for 8 years, and off to college I went. In the last 20 years the longest I've lived anywhere has been 5 1/2 years, and the closest to family was a 15 hour drive. We make new friends, get involved in the community, and make it home. We've even established new traditions for holidays, which we celebrate with our ';extended family';. (of no relation to us, but they seem like family!)


We never know when and where the military will take us. We know where we would like to go... but that's just a dream. Right now we are in one of those limbo situations... we know we are leaving next June, but we have no idea where we will go! We've been to places we've loved and didn't want to leave, we've been to places we were glad to leave. But we always tried to make the best of every place we've ever lived.
Waiting is hard, isn't it? God certainly wants us to exercise patience sometimes.





Have you prayed about it? Have you commited your thoughts, desires, needs to the Lord?





If you and your husband both want to move back - and if you have sincerely and earnestly asked God for guidance and help and if you feel that moving is what HE wants - perhaps you should not wait until the job transfer comes. Maybe God wants your husband to take a step of faith and go back to the West Coast with no sure job awaiting him!





Are you involved in a church where you are? Have you talked about your situation with the pastor of the church?





The most important thing is to discern what God really wants. Maybe He is more interested in you and your husband learning some lessons - or being a blessing to others - right where you are now....





Remember, it usually is not WHERE we are but WHO we are that is God's priority.





God bless