Was I out of line in this ';goodbye'; letter?

I am going to be honest with you. I think it is not a good idea for us to be friends. While you are otherwise a good person, part of my definition of a friend is someone to rely on, and I cannot rely on you. Since day one, you have been flaky with me; you would want to meet with me and then change your mind at the last minute--only after I move things away or make sacrifices to meet with you. After you have done this to me for a couple of times, I told you how I felt, and you promised to do better. Even so, very little has changed. I do not include the times when you were in the hospital; I am not that selfish. However, this has happened so many times since I have known you, and I have had enough of it. I really have tried to be a good friend to you; when you were having your problems, I listened to you and tried to help you out. When you were in the hospital with your kidney infection, I dropped everything and hurried to the hospital. I did this in foolish hope that you would acknowledge this and treat me better, but I was wrong. My birthday is proof of this. I invited you about a month in advance, and you first said that you would most likely come. Later, you said that you were definitely coming, but the day before the party, you told me that you were not sure if you could come because you were going out of town. On the day of the party, you said that you were definitely coming, but you never showed up. You didn't call to tell me so, and you didn't even call me the next day to wish me a happy birthday!





When we started hanging out, I poured my heart out to you about the kinds of friends I used to have--friends like you. I cannot take this anymore. If friendship means having to always endure this nonsense, I would rather live as a hermit. I am not some toy you can just take off the shelf when you want to play, and I am too old for childish games. I am a human being, and I deserve respect! I don't know why you flake out on me all the time. Do you treat everyone like this, or just me--to prove to the world and yourself that you are capable of having friends of other cultures and classes? Am I just a token friend to you? Whatever the reason, I am done with being walked on, and I need to separate myself from you before I really become hurt. Please make it easy on me and leave me alone.Was I out of line in this ';goodbye'; letter?
I do not think this was out of line. I am going through an almost identical thing right now and wish I had the courage to do what you did. I also feel I am the only friend he treats this way and I feel disposable to him. You should not be second guessing yourself but proud that you stood up for yourself and showed that you do matter and should be respected. You deserve friends that genuinley care about you all the time, not just when they want to. Good for you. Hope it all works out.Was I out of line in this ';goodbye'; letter?
I dont think you were out of line, you were just venting your feelings in the letter, its all good, just dont start drama with it!
no way were you out of line you were honest, made good points, and had a lot of good reasons why you dont want to be friends:)
That is an excellent letter. You are honest about your feelings and how she was treating you. I read your question about your flaky friend and she is definitely not a good friend to you at all. No matter how many times you were there for her in her time of need, she was never there for you at your time of need. This girl is not worthy of your friendship and you deserve so much better. You are doing the right thing by ending the friendship. What goes around, comes around, and this flaky female will get what's coming to her. I wish you the best of luck and you will find a friend who is worthy of your friendship and values it as well. :)
I am applauding you, that is quite possibly the best beat-it letter I have ever read. Kudos to you!





I don't recommend allowing people to walk all over you for even ten seconds. This is just blatant disregard and disrespect of another person. You handled this VERY well, and I just have to tell you, you are the MAN!





Clear, concise, intelligent and thoughtful, I enjoyed every paragraph. What an idiot, she lost a gem!





You're alright with me, NMoS!