How do you tell your mother in law to mind her own business???!!!!?

well unfortunately, for certain money issues, next month, me and my husband will be moving in with his parents.. id be alright with it if it wasn't for his super nosy and judgmental mom!


i mean the woman calls him like freaking 3 times a day.. to see if he's home from work, to ask if we are going anywhere tonight, if we are already out, to call when we get home, to lock the doors and like OH MY GOD! SERIOUSLY LADY! HE IS A GROWN MAN ALREADY.. A MARRIED MAN! i mean we are still young (22 and me 21) but i mean, what the hell, she treats us like we are 11! seriously..and it gets on my nerves that she does that.. not only that, she is always annoying us about having kids already and we are not ready! she always has something so say.. like the other day i was wearing those clear straps they have for bras, just cause i felt like it and she was like ';hey ___ you know they have those things where you dont have to show your bra straps no more'; like omg lady, i dont tell you what to wear.. and when she comes to my house, she always looks around like to find something wrong, and she'll be like ';you havent washed dishes yet? you havent washed clothes yet?'; like omg mind your own business.. or like she'll say ';it smells like dog in here'; cause we have a dog.. but i mean... AUGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! how am i supposed to live with this woman if she's like all in our bussiness!!!!!!! the freaking lady calls at freaking 11 pm just to say good night.. man not even my parents call me that often, especially not that late.. and there is a million other things, but its a novel already lol


SO HOW DO I TELL THIS LADY TO MIND HER OWN BUSINESS AND KEEP OUT OF OUR LIFES?!!!!!


please help or i will end up exploding in her face!!!... which i dont want.How do you tell your mother in law to mind her own business???!!!!?
Do not move in with this lady. If you think you have problems now , wait till you are living in her house. Do whatever you have to do to establish your independence. A lot of this you have to ignore and some of it must be dealt with by your husband. Establish rules for phone calls--EG: not after 10 at nite --get call display and screen your calls. Sit down with your husband to establish rules and then with your mother in law--but let HIM do the talking.How do you tell your mother in law to mind her own business???!!!!?
I agree with the above answer. You do need to grow up and you are very young. One day you will understand what she is talking about. Calm down, take a deep breath and deal with it. If you don;t get along with her, you will have problems.
So don't move in!


Its her home, not yours!


Stop complaining, at least you have somewhere to go!
just nicely tell her that it is non of her buisiness and that she should not worry herself with your problems.
okay, this is not going to be easy. You need to take a deep breath and slow down a minute. There are several things you can do. Call her first, don't wait for her to call. Tell her you are just checking in to see if she is okay, and give her a bit of news about her son's day and yours. If she shows up at your place, and the dishes haven't been done, calmly say that you were working on setting up a schedule to help you organize your days better and you are doing something else right now and have the afternoon set aside for housework, and then do it that way. When you live with her, remember she is trying to be kind and provide for you even if she is difficult. Offer to help around the house after you are done with your own work. and here is the tricky part; say thank you once in a while. She may be hard to put up with for you, but I think you might agree that you too can be difficult at times. No one is perfect, no one is always right, no one is always wrong. breathe, it will be better for you if you slow down.
just try to show EXTRA CONCERN TO HER SARCASTICALLY by saying dear mom dont bother abt ur son. i day when i married him i took all ur responsibilities on my shoulders and u take rest i will ask him if hes going out, when he'll b back , or ask him to lock d doors. n if she says abt dishes n smell tell her dat O MOM u werent here so long so it continued like this now dat u have come i will try to get into line and do thngs on time.... just add U PLZ TAKE REST after evertline she''ll get the real meaning of MIND UR OWN BUSINESS. play safe. good luck








if u like my ida just bless me dat i wont get such a mother in law.
Have you ever heard the saying that to change your mind is to change the world? You are talking yourself into a fine frenzy. Is she Irritating yes a little too involved certainly. So much better than her being a drunk or a neglectful mom though. Just try to thik this lady loves my husband so much and one day she may grow to love me that much too , if i give her that chance by being my kind loving understanding, patient self. One day you may have a son and he may fall in love and get married. How do you want his wife to treat you what kind of relationship will you want to have with her. Dont try to push her out of his life embrace her and love her and all of her quirks and crazys. If you make it hard he may have to choose and that choice may not be the one you want just try to love her as much as he does and they say to find out how a man will treat you look at how he treats his mother. Be happy you have such an amazing man.
well if you going to live with her you have to deal with it. But if you don't want to live with her don't move..................... i think you are being to cruel with her, the only reason she does that is to protect her son. You not going to understand that until you have your own kids and you'll see how it feels.
I think you have to be nice to her and ALSO firm. She will want her child to herself always! You could be rich,talented all the things she could hope for in a daughter in law, but.....you have her son. The best course of action is do not rely on her for money if possible and get away as soon as you can!
Well like OMG grow up - you and your husband (who you claim are adults) are all like OMG moving in with her......so like OMG deal with it.





If you want people to take you seriously then you have to present yourself in the manner in which you want them to receive you. Your post screams of immaturity. Perhaps you need to sit down and drop the ';likes'; and the ';oh my God's'; and try to come to some commo ground with your mother in law. After all, she is your husband's mother and therefore will always have an important role in his life.





Also - you are moving in with her, be thankful someone is willing to give you a place to stay.
I've learned that your mother in law is the best friend you can have. You tell her what she does bothers you. You be specific... when you do___ this I feel like... You stay calm and let her know that you appreciate what she's doing by giving you a place to live but you are adults and need your privacy. If she keeps calling turn the phone off and don't answer. I went through this with my ex-mother in law and we became the best of friends and she was a huge support when we went through our divorce. Hope this helps.