I ask think because I am 17 and 19 weeks pregnant in March I will be moving to New York with my boyfriend and we will be with his family. I hate change for one. I don鈥檛 know how to emotionally handle not having any of my family there for me. I know my family doesn鈥檛 treat me right but its just the security of having them there if I did need them. My close family member will be just over 10 hours away. I am scared to death that I will get postpartum depression due to the alone feeling. Don鈥檛 get me wrong my boyfriend鈥檚 family is great but I just fear so much.
Next I know it may sound stupid but I am going to put my dog to sleep. Mind you she is 13 and her hips are going bad the vet said it is the best thing to do for there. There fore it has nothing to do with the move but I am just SO upset over putting my baby down I cant handle it I cry at just the thought.Mommy's and mommy's to be, did you ever move during your pregnancy? How did you handle all this HELP ME PLEASE?
Well I can tell your pregnant. Your very emotional like I am lol. But my husband and I thought about staying where we are while my family moves else where and even if we move to the same state well be living in another city. It was hard for me at the thought. I want my mom to be there and help me out with my changes and everything and I am a family oriented girl. So it was difficult at the thought I even told him if he does do it I am going to be very depressed and forming him a 4th of July everyday(but with lots of tears and screaming instead of the beautiful sounds of fire works lol). But although were still not sure what were going to do the thought of it made me cry and it hurt so much. But in your case its different if his family treats you better then your own I think you'll be fine and besides they are just a phone call away. For your baby's sake try to be accepting of the idea and be happy!
Oh and about your dog it has to be sad but hey get a new puppy may help you cop with it better and have a new pet so you wont be alone! Hope I helped!Mommy's and mommy's to be, did you ever move during your pregnancy? How did you handle all this HELP ME PLEASE?
My mom moved from Texas to California with my dad, 7 months into the pregnancy, so all I know is that is possible. His family is going to be there for you, talk to his parents, they probably have some good advice. Don't be afraid to voice your concerns.
Make sure that this move is what you really want and don't be forced to do it. If it is, talk with your boyfriend about your emotions. He will understand and makes you feel better. After you move, keep contact with your family. It is easy to loose contact if you're away, so try not to do that. Knowing that they are still there and you can easily reach them by phone can be of much help.
About the dog, I can imagine that it is hard and it's very normal to feel sad about it. Talk with your boyfriend about this and do something fun together to try to clear your mind of such negative thoughts. It's important that positive thoughts and attitudes are dominant through your pregnancy.
Change is hard but through self-help and support you can go through all of this. I wish you all the best in everything! Take care of yourself.
You're very hormonal right now, and probably over-reacting a bit. My mom lives in Michigan, my dad lives in Vegas and any other family [grandparents, aunts/uncles, etc.] live in Georgia. I live in Florida, so obviously I'm far away from my entire family. Does it suck they can't be here to experience my pregnancy with me? Of course. Am I absolutely devastated by it? Of course not. I have my fiance, his family and my friends all here to support me. You're only moving 10 hours away, you'll still see your family and you can call them all the time. It will be an adjustment to move to a new city, but people do it all the time and survive. You will too.
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