Monday, August 16, 2010

How do I help my 18 year old son?

My son has been depressed for quite some time. He has a very low self-esteem. He recently got a girlfriend and things seemed to be moving pretty quick between them. I was so happy because he was a changed person. He was talkitive, smiling and happy. Something I haven't seen in a long time. Tonight, she broke up with him. I think she is scared that things are moving too fast. He is worse than heartbroken. He mentioned that he understood why this friend of ours is a ';cutter.'; He said it takes your mind off your pain... He said he wanted to know if there is some sort of medicine he can take to help him with his feelings. I am really worried. What can I/should I do. I actually called our family doctor on the emergency line but he hasn't returned the call and it has been almost 2 hours. Please help.How do I help my 18 year old son?
Undoubtedly you've already told him how much you love him and how important he is to you. While you wait for that return call, tell him again and again and again. Tell him about the day he was born and how much that meant to you and that some day he is going to have his own son that he can share life's experiences with. He's gotta know there's more fish in the sea and he's better off.How do I help my 18 year old son?
A girlfriend isn't what cures depression.


Maybe a psychiatrist could provide help, or a new outlook. Maybe he has a chemical imbalance. If a person is depressed, or unhappy with himself, he needs to increase his self esteem, and get involved with life...does your family attend church functions, talk to the pastor, and discover all that is offered there? What about area clubs or sports? A date or spouse can't cure his blues. He needs to develop a healthy, positive attitude so he can succeed in life.
if he is still at home with you then i would call or go to the er and explain what you just told us. if he is thinking about cutting then he could be thinking about other things like drugs or death. there are pills but be sure that he is fully tested before they just put him on them cause the wrong ones can make it worse
Your son needs to see a doctor. Try calling your physician again. You may need to take your son to the emergency room, especially if you believe he is a threat to his own safety, i.e. hurting himself or having suicidal thoughts.
Im 17 now and i thinkt he best thing to do is give him some space. if i was in that position i would just need some time to think things through.
I really think your son needs to see the doctor call him again maybe the call didn't go through. I'm sure they could put him on some antidepressants for a little while maybe it could help him get over the little hump some people just need them they could draw blood levels on him to see if any of his levels are off. Does anyone else in your family suffer from depression? Of course you will have to watch him on the meds if they put him on any because they could have side effects. Best of luck to you and him!!!!!!!!!
If you feel that he might hurt his self in someone then call the sucidue hotline. He needs to be in counsling . If you think this wont help soon enough then get him to the emergency room and maybe they could help him or recommend someone that could. I really dont know what else to tell you. I only hope for the best in this sisutation.
until you get a call back from your doc, you need to be with your son, kindof supervision, but you would be there for him anyway in this situation. Just talk and listen, or don't talk but be by his side. Your his mom, that's what your there for.
its good to hear that you're son is still comunicating with you because if you bottle things up they only become worse.. stay with your son and make sure you see the doc straight away.the low self esteem will only get worse if you don't seek help fast.trust me i know!!!my sister is in heaven
If you have a family Church I certainly would ask for prayer. If your son tries to distance you/or the Church, I would not make him go.





If you have a Family Physican contact him for recommendation for a therapist


I would not waste time in getting an appointment. And yes, there is medication to help him, the Physican may have to change it a few times to see what works best for your son. And make sure all of his medication is taken as prescribed. If you believe in Prayer, then of all the answers you may receive God is the healer of the mind, body and soul..If he is a cutter I know I would admit him into a good Mental Facility for treatment .If he agrees to go then this first step he takes will imply he is ready for a healing.
If you think your son might hurt himself, go immediately to an emergency room for psychiatric help. At the very least they can refer you to a doctor or a clinic.


If you feel that he will not hurt himself and is really asking for 'medicine' to ease the pain, you might want to wait for your doctor's call. However, if you have any doubts at all, try to get help immediately. The worse that can happen is that you might be wrong.
take your son to mental hospital to get help. sounds like this might be some major depression. here that is what your doctor will tell you. he needs help asap
doctors are a pain when it comes to things like this they are no where to be found. get him into talk to someone asap. be there to listen or make someone available to listen that he is comfortable with. If you are really worried about him hurting himself. take him to the ER. hope this helps and good luck. It sounds like you are a good mom and doing everything right. just follow your instincts.
It is good that he is aware of how he is feeling, and great that he is discussing his issues with you. Your best bet is to make an app. with your family doctor for your son as soon as you can. Just show your son he has your love and support.
I'm so sorry for your son's pain. If you fear that he might hurt himself you must for his sake take him to the emergency room of the nearest hospital. They will evaluate him and have a therapist assigned him. With medication and talk therapy(either alone/group or both) he will begin to feel better about himself.





This is nothing that you can wait on. He is begging you for help and as the parent you must provide it no matter how it might hurt you to admit it. If your Dr. hasn't returned your call by now ,,I hope you have called him back and been a little more aggressive in having him respond. If he doesn't


he isn't the right Dr. for you or your son. Do not put this off any longer. You do not say whether he was treated for the depression in the past. If he has then you should know what to do...if not...and you feel you have to wait to see a Dr. call an emergency line and talk with them about your son. They can often give you information that would really help





Good Luck
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